Wednesday, 5 April 2017

D is for Decline...A-Z Challenge 2017



My theme for the 2017 challenge is waffling on about random words!

That might not seem like a theme but if you read on you’ll discover it’s not quite as random as it sounds.  The words were generated using a word generator (https://randomwordgenerator.com/) and I opted for 4 words each day.  I might focus on one or try and incorporate them all into the post.

Choosing the words this way has given me a challenge and a common thread to my posts but it has also allowed me to be myself and just waffle!  It’s what I’m good at.  (Don’t worry, I’m aiming for around 500 words per post so hopefully you won’t get stuck here for too long 😉)
And the words for today are….

Decline

Drink

Disappointment

Disposition


Unlike my hubby I have no problem when I have to decline a drink because I’m driving.  I don’t need to have a drink to enjoy myself.  It’s not a disappointment for me if I draw the short straw and end up being the designated driver for the evening.  It’s the norm usually.


Don’t get me wrong.  I enjoy a glass of wine, or two.  (Or maybe more!)
But I’ve never been a spirit drinker and beer doesn’t have any appeal to me either.  Hubby on the other hand finds it hard to last an entire social event drinking only soft drinks.  He clearly has a different disposition from me.


At a family party last year we had a real domestic over it.  We usually discuss beforehand who will drive.  On this occasion we hadn’t.  When I discovered hubby had started on the alcohol before I’d had a chance to even talk to him about the driving I got quite cross.  Somehow he managed to turn that around and put me in the wrong.  Usually I’m pretty easy going but on that day I was actually furious!  I refused to speak to him which his family thought was hilarious.


Fortunately he never gets nasty when he’s had a drink although he does get chatty.  Not great if he comes home late and I’m trying to get to sleep.  However, one of the few rules we have between us is to never go to sleep on an argument.  It’s a policy that’s served us well over the years.  (We’ll celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary this year.)


Do you have a favourite tipple or a tip for a lasting marriage relationship?

15 comments:

  1. We aren't big drinkers. Some wine now and then or a mixed drink (rarely). Joe will drink a beer. I don't like it. We've been married 32 years. No tips...just love, trust and respect.

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    1. We're at 33 this June and your tips are good!

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  2. We never went to bed angry with each other either. I think communication is the greatest obstacle in marriage. And also the one that most needs to be dealt with. I do like an occasional drink of wine or beer but not as much as when I was younger.

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    1. Communication is definitely key.

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  3. I like whiskey liqueurs like Glayva or Southern Comfort but as I have a hiatus hernia I hardly drink any more. (Can life get any crappier!) Agree with Paula that communication is the single important thing in a marriage - and why ultimately mine broke down after 26 years of marriage and 31 years together. If you can talk you can pretty much overcome any problem but when you can't you get no resolution. I am communicator (as you know!) my husband isn't - and ultimately I could not live being silenced anymore - particularly when there are issues that affect all the family. I am sad though Wendy - it's not the way I wanted to work out but at the end of the day there was no other choice. Ah well at least I've still got the contents of our drinks cabinet:D

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    1. It's sad but there are two people in a marriage and you both have to work at it. I just hope you can work together when it comes to the kids.

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  4. Don't sweat the small stuff. We have been through thick and thin over forty years and I can honestly say we enjoy each other's company to this day.
    I am usually the designated driver, but if I feel like having a drink or two my hubby happily obliges.

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    1. My hubby will oblige but not always happily lol

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  5. I do enjoy a glass of red wine with a good meal.

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    1. Yes I'm a red person. If I have white it tends to be a bit too sweet for everyone else!

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  6. I see you do the Alphabet challenge, I don't understand how that works exactly, do you have to post each day another letter and knit a text around it ? What happens to the themes then ?
    We are married for 48 years (a record) and I think a long lasting marriage is based on concessions of both sides, humour and friendship too ! I always say as long as we can laugh together it's OK. We both don't drink anymore, fortunately there is alcohol free, beer and recently wine and even Champagne ! We both overdid it in the past ! Now we live "healthy" lol !

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    1. 48 years is definitely an achievement these days and laughing together is a good recipe for success.

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  7. We catch cabs! Drinking too often is why I'm the size I am.
    We've been married 28 years. Not always happily. I think tolerance, compromise and mutual respect are important.
    That and me being willing always to be wrong!
    Wendyoftherock.blogspot.co

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    1. I keep mucking up leaving the link to my blog. I'm such a technotrog.
      Sorry
      Http://wendyoftherock.blogspot.co

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    2. The link doesn't matter for me as I have you on my reader list! Not good always willing to be wrong but I guess it avoids the arguments.

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